Grow Up Happy Seven Step! By International Hypnosis Federation President, Author, Artist and More Shelley Stockwell-Nicholas, PhD
I often ask a client; “What do you do for fun?” and some look at me like I’m speaking Swahili; “Fun?’ Huh?”
Yet, when you think about it, you’re hard wired for being playful. As a child you liked those you played nice with the most.
So if you have bypassed play now for survival why not take this moment to embrace the playful you, and capture and celebrate your true, spontaneous, vital and creative self.
Happiness is that energetic thing you do as you express what is meaningful to YOU. And as you say and do “what makes sense to you. So here are easy-peasy ways to up your happy NOW!
ONE: BE TRUE TO YOU
Ultimately, your number one job is to BE YOUR OWN BEST CARETAKER
SO ASK YOURSELF
“What thoughts bring me most joy?”
“What are best ways to honor my body?”
“How do I best manage emotion?”
“What can I do now to honor my talents, interests and abilities?
TWO: SPEND TIME WELL
Your schedule may not be the same for everyone else. You have ideal times to sleep or awaken. To be happy, be true to your natural rhythms and routines.
ASK YOURSELF
“How can I best use my time?”
THREE: HAPPY RESULTS ARE NOW
The adventure called “my life” happens here and now and influences your outcomes. In fact, today is your most important experience. When your actions are nourishing today, you get another day and another and another. What you do today creates your tomorrow.
ASK YOURSELF
“How can I best use my time now?”
“Will I wander aimlessly or be on purpost now?”
FOUR: JOY-US!
You’re influenced by those around you. To get along with others, “grock” that they are not you! Each is one of a kind and has their own agenda, intention and purpose. They “do” themselves perfectly. As you quest to be your happy best, honor your gifts and talents.
ASK YOURSELF
“Is this person nourishing or toxic?”
“Whose problem is this?”
“Am I nourishing to myself and others?”
Then choose to be around uplifting folks.
FIVE: KEEP GOOD BOUNDARIES!
AFFIRM: I keep and maintain clear boundaries between myself and others!”
SIX: BE CURIOUS. As you remain curious listen to what you tell yourself and you get to discover who you are. Don’t accept everything at face value. Question what you say yourself and what comes into you from friends, family, the media, signs, and books. Notice people’s underlying beliefs, attitudes and behaviours and then consider if what you think and do needs an upgrade.
ASK YOURSELF
“Says who?”
“Do I have the facts?”
“Is it a true, accurate or a faulty conclusion?”
“Does this serve or hurt me?”
AFFIRM: “My bull-detector is awakened and I easily spot a lie a mile away.”
SEVEN: BE CURIOUS. I suspect you have yet to enjoy the full extent of your positive possibilities so dig-in celebrate all the fun and joy that awaits your discovery.
Local Personality, Shelley Stockwell-Nicholas, PhD is a hypnotherapist, mindfulness and NLP trainer, artist and the author of 25 books. She certifies practitioners through the International Hypnosis Federation. You can call her at 310 541-4844. Website: https://www.hypnosisfederation.com/
