There are those whose very presence, and the thought of them, draws you like a moth to a flame. They fill up your senses (like night in a forest) and grab your eyes and hold them hard for a spell.

Charismatic people captivate your imagination, attention, energy, and often your heart with an invisible net.

Charisma is a secret sauce, a wafting magnetic energy that, like a single drop of perfume, fills all air as your senses respond with riveted attention. Charisma is downright hypnotic and leaves others spellbound. Perhaps that’s why the root word for charisma comes from the Greek word for “charm, fascination, and allure.”

So, how does a person arouse your attention? How do they broadcast powerful energy to resonates within YOU? How do they persuade perception? Can you pin the phenomena on mood lighting, spoken word, or blame it on the Bosa Nova?

What we do know for certain is that, CHARISMATIC PEOPLE GET YOUR ATTENTION NEUROLOGICALLY because they stimulate mirror neurons to you pay attention, loosen up and listen up.

Charm delights and captivate attention, admiration, appreciation and approval and is easy to achieve when you put your mind to it.

Here’s how

THREE THINGS THAT MAKE YOU IRRESISTABLE:

1. OFFER POSITIVE ATTENTION. Convey; “I positively regard YOU as a miracle. I smile upon and with you.” When you do it, mirror neurons cause another to smile back as neurology registers a hearty “I’m safe, valued and valuable.”

People like the familiar and, like the good family they crave, when you let them know that you like them, they think you are like them; which is actually true and flat out charming and alluring. The more attention you pay others, the more valued they feel and the more lovely you become in their eyes.

2. COMPLIMENT CLEARLY. A sincere compliment about anything, their style, a trait, an accomplishment, or even a piece of jewelry, makes others feel good. For a reason we don’t fully understand, it seems easier for women to complement each other than for men to complement. (Men seem amused by offering a playful put-down and a punch on the arm.) Guys complement anyway because, when you do, your admiration warms hearts. Add a thank and you give both you and them a big jolly;

3. RAISE YOUR PRAISE

When I celebrate and approve of you, you can’t help it, you feel better about yourself and enjoy my company. I become more intriguing, interesting and charming.

Some say “babies cry for approval and adults die for it;” so live it up and approve of yourself and others and enjoy good vibes that make life fun and easy.

WARMLY REGISTER A COMPLAINT

If you have a complaint, use the sandwich method. It makes a complaint easier to swallow…

Bread; Compliment/

Meat; Complaint/

Cheese; Positive solution/

Bread again; Complement

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Local Personality, Shelley Stockwell-Nicholas, PhD is a hypnotherapist, mindfulness and NLP trainer, artist and the author of 25 books. She certifies practitioners through the International Hypnosis Federation. You can call her at 310 541-4844.